Wedding rings

WAS said:
In all honesty, if your wife actually got mad because you took your ring off for work..then your wife has some insecurity issues..
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Lots of people are that way though...for one reason or another they really care about sporting the rings. Ditto for the custom of adapting the husband's last name (something else my wife and I don't care about and didn't do) or doing the hyphenated version (which often sounds pretty silly, gee, don't they try saying it out loud first? :chuckle: ). The whole "Hey, lookie here, I'm married!" thing is just really significant to some people.



Not trying to be rude or anything, but a piece of metal shouldn't be the only thing holding someone back from being unfaithful..
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I don't think it's about infidelity as much as that "Hey, I'm married!" thing. Or at least I'd sure hope that's the case! I mean...I wouldn't want the *marriage* to be the only thing holding somebody back from being unfaithful to their partner either!



Eh, I suppose there *are* people for whom the ring is a leash, but I guess in those cases I wouldn't argue with whatever works :nixweiss Lots of people need some sort of external factor in order to behave themselves.
 
Barry Theal said:
LOL WAS try telling this to my wife! She would cut my balls if I took my ring off. Very rarely will I take my ring off to detail. LOL that and my fingers got a little fatter over the years. I need to lube it up first if I wanted to!
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lol, I'll give it a try when I'm in PA if you want me to !
 
Accumulator said:
I don't think it's about infidelity as much as that "Hey, I'm married!" thing. Or at least I'd sure hope that's the case! I mean...I wouldn't want the *marriage* to be the only thing holding somebody back from being unfaithful to their partner either!



Eh, I suppose there *are* people for whom the ring is a leash, but I guess in those cases I wouldn't argue with whatever works :nixweiss Lots of people need some sort of external factor in order to behave themselves.
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So the ring is more of a "showoff" type symbol ? Showing off one's relationship status as being "as high as it can go" ? Not sure I'd want to be with a person who cares THAT much about what other people think of them.... I don't know, maybe I'm on a completely different track here, but I don't think wearing or not wearing a wedding ring (specifically when working physical labour) should be grounds for an argument.



Same thing here, if someone *needs* that leash in order to behave, I don't think that person is worth being in a relationship with.
 
Regarding the "needs" aspect of the ring ,let's just hope that most people who always wear them do so for the intended, very sentimental and positive emotional reasons, i.e. the ring always reminds the wearer of his/her spouse and of the joyous aspects of the insititution of marriage they have committed to. Traditionally,wearing of the wedding ring on the left hand ring finger in most western customs, is supposed to trace directly back to the heart. I think it was believed or it actually is that the vein that runs through that finger links directly to the heart--still considered as the physical housing of love. It's a nice custom and it's extremely important to some- like when some widows wear their departed husband's wedding ring around their neck.I feel it's something worthy of deep respect. Besides, it beats other customs such as pricking fingers and burning the card of a saint :chuckle:
 
My wedding ring has been on my keychain for 10 years. We've been married 10 years. I don't wear a watch and I don't use a belt when detailing. It's not something I ever really thought of, I've never been much for watches/rings so it just made sense to eliminate them all.
 
Going on 21 years now and I never take it off. Doesn't really matter what I am doing. Even back when I was a mason or working with machinery. It is just kind of always there even in places that I know a lot of guys do take theirs off! It just never occurs to me to take it off, ever. My Wifes ring she has to take off otherwise fear of personal injury can occur! Besides, she works with people in some areas of the country where you could get killed for something like that. Doesn't bother me at all that she does. I know who she is with. Mine, simple band. Watches and such I do remove. I don't wear any other 'jewelry' but I am a watch nut, have 16 of them but that is different then my ring.
 
rdorman said:
but I am a watch nut, have 16 of them but that is different then my ring.
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Yeah, that's another bug that can bite hard :o I have a nice garage wall clock to keep track of the time while detailing and even a mini desktop style one I perch right on my cart.
 
rdorman said:
My Wifes ring she has to take off otherwise fear of personal injury can occur! Besides, she works with people in some areas of the country where you could get killed for something like that.
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I have to ask, where does your wife work where she could get killed for this ?
 
WAS said:
I have to ask, where does your wife work where she could get killed for this ?
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She works for Children's Hunger Alliance and some of the neighborhoods she goes into are the worst in the state. All it would take is the wrong person to see her sporting "the rock" and that would be that. She also doesn't wear it because she is working with low income folks and considers wearing something like that around them to be impolite. Over time, the local 'gangs' have become accustomed to seeing her around. They know why she is there and will actually wave hello and smile... best of all, they don't mess with her or her vehicle! But, there is always someone out there who could care less that she is there to help. I have read of many being 'wasted' for much less in these areas.
 
rdorman- Props to your wife for all sorts of reasons, including, I suspect, her situational awareness :xyxthumbs



WAS said:
I have to ask, where does your wife work where she could get killed for this ?
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"Planet Earth" would be a good anwer too.



No, I'm not nutty-paranoid, but people get victimized in all sorts of "nice, safe" environments over things one might not expect to precipitate serious violence. Accumulatorette sure doesn't wear her wedding ring everywhere she goes, she'd have to be clueless to do so. Note she's originally from (and frequently visits solo) Memphis TN, one of the nation's "Murder Capitols", where people get killed all the time over all sorts of stuff, like even just *having* a nice ring that says "my life doesn't suck".
 
Public service reminder for this coming summer: Don't even bring your ring or watch if you plan to go swimming or sunbathing on the beach. My uncle lost a Rolex :eek: when he bumped the bag he placed it in and the watch must have went sailing into the ocean and he never even knew it until it was too late. Happened four years ago . We still always go up to the beach hoping it will turn up though. The moon's going to crash to Earth before that happens. :(
 
Accumulator said:
rdorman- Props to your wife for all sorts of reasons, including, I suspect, her situational awareness :xyxthumbs
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Thanks. She gets to visit all sorts of choice areas. Point Dexter, Weinland Park, Franklinton, The Hilltop. Weinland park made the nations top 15 list for theft not that long ago. Spend a year in Weinland park and you have a 1 in 2 chance of your stuff getting jacked. Nice. My neighborhood, 1 in 476. City and community is working hard on these areas but that generally means the bad elements just move onto greener pastures. She is just a non-profit kind of girl that loves helping people. More of a 'rather die doing what I love then live doing what I hate sort of thing'. I just hope she stays safe! After about 15 years she has yet to have a run in with them.



A friend of mine's son is a new prosecutor and they just arrested almost all of the Short North Posey (probably the worst one in the city). Seems to me about 75 of them with nearly 1000 charges (a number of murders as well). Of course, just like the drug cartels that leaves a vacuum so the trick is to make sure the void doesn't get filled!



Funny thing is... my wife went to Weinland Park community meeting. While there she was carrying on a "nice" conversation for some time with a local 'resident'. Once the conversation was over and the man left the room, another person said to her "Do you have ANY idea who that was!?!? THAT IS the leader of the Short North Posey!"
 
Bill D said:
Public service reminder for this coming summer: Don't even bring your ring or watch if you plan to go swimming or sunbathing on the beach. My uncle lost a Rolex :eek: when he bumped the bag he placed it in and the watch must have went sailing into the ocean and he never even knew it until it was too late. Happened four years ago . We still always go up to the beach hoping it will turn up though. The moon's going to crash to Earth before that happens. :(
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That stinks that he lost it! The only watch's I bring to the beach goes in the water with me. I don't bring a Rolex because I am to concerned that I will meet the same fate as you Uncle.
 
The thing is a Rolex *is* supposed to go in water, in anything, really. He took it off because the salt water leaves nasty crudy deposits,especially in between the Jubilee bracelet links. He's not really the detailing type. It was a shame because it was a gift from my Aunt and she was more horrified than he was.
 
Bill D- Yikes, talk about learning the hard way!





rdorman- Ah, OK...you and your wife get it.



I'm actually not surprised that the gangsta-guy was OK towards your wife! The whole dynamic with such folks is often much more complicated and nuanced than the average person might think. Her not having "stuck her foot in it" with him might have paid all sorts of dividends; sounds like she has her head in the right place, good for her and for the people she's helping.
 
Bill D said:
The thing is a Rolex *is* supposed to go in water, in anything, really. He took it off because the salt water leaves nasty crudy deposits,especially in between the Jubilee bracelet links. He's not really the detailing type. It was a shame because it was a gift from my Aunt and she was more horrified than he was.
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Yeah I know about Rolex's and water, I own some. Wearing my Daytona right now. I know what he is saying about the salt crud. I always give mine a good rinsing in fresh water after a day on the beach. When I am at the beach I tend to wear the 'Black Monster' and leave the more expensive stuff in the safe. I bet the Aunt was not pleased! Knowing my wife, when I bought her the engagement ring, I took out a policy on it... just in case.
 
Accumulator said:
I'm actually not surprised that the gangsta-guy was OK towards your wife!
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She actually commented that he was quite pleasent! Now, he is in jail at least for the time being.
 
Bill D said:
Public service reminder for this coming summer: Don't even bring your ring or watch if you plan to go swimming or sunbathing on the beach. My uncle lost a Rolex :eek: when he bumped the bag he placed it in and the watch must have went sailing into the ocean and he never even knew it until it was too late. Happened four years ago . We still always go up to the beach hoping it will turn up though. The moon's going to crash to Earth before that happens. :(
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rdorman said:
That stinks that he lost it! The only watch's I bring to the beach goes in the water with me. I don't bring a Rolex because I am to concerned that I will meet the same fate as you Uncle.
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I smell a faint aroma of non-insured jewelery? :fear: A good friend of mine actually lost his diamond encrusted Presidential while deep sea fishing when he let out a long cast. Actually pretty common for the pins on those models to wear. I take my YachtMaster to the beach all the time. I make sure to give it a good rinse and blow it out with compressed air afterwards.
 
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