Welcome to Autopia!
The wash is something that's a lot tougher to do properly than most people would think. Check out the e-book for how to use the "two bucket method". That's the simplest way to wash that'll give decent results. It's improper washing that causes most swirls/etc. (AKA "marring") and the process of washing properly is just too involved for me to explain here and now.
For wax, I'd get two products: something with some mild abrasives to take care of the swirls and then get something long lasting to put on so you don't have to do it again for a while. OTC products that come to mind are Meguiar's Scratch-X for the former and some wax by Collinite for the latter. Both are available at some autoparts stores, or at least they are in my town (check Autozone). If you're dead set on not doing that much work, a cleaner wax from Meguiar's or Mother's will also be commonly available and will work fairly well. But it won't last long and it won't do anything for the marring.
Plan on buying microfiber towels. Waffle-weave ones for drying and plush ones for buffing off things like wax.
