So I guess I am a single man today.

Brandon1 said:
So in the meantime, I am going to the Long-Branch (country club) and buying a ATV to ride with my buddies. What a way to cope huh?





Actually that is a great way to cope... better than boozing, druging or getting with the 1st one that comes your way in hopes to take your mind off Becky..that wont work by the way. Sure, it may feel good at the moment but, after there will be something missing... Becky!!!



Keep your chin up Brandon, you'll come out on top either way just know that.



We cant always "will" something our way.. what is supposed to happen will.!!
 
I hope so, I pray that we can get back together and I could have my babe back. If it takes months, thats ok, more time to be single, more time for her to figure herself out.



MORE TIME TO RIDE MY NEW ATV!!!!



Thanks for all your help guys, keep me in your prayers that me and Becky get back together!
 
Damm my past is almost the same like yours, Brandon.

I met my ex g/f, when she was 16 years old in HS..we dated like 7.5 years(from HS to college to her new career) .We broke up..it was a mutaul break up... She landed a job in Hong Kong and no way Im going move to HK. So, long story short..I was single for 1.5 years and I met a beautiful girl..We dated like 2 years and marry and now we have a beautiful 5 years old girl :)



So,chin up...there's more than one fish in the sea :grinno:
 
Brandon1 said:
ZoranC, you really just arent being anything but blunt, and that is not welcome at this moment in time.

Realize that everybody hates person that poured bucket of cold water on them after they have been KOd while they should not be because that is the only person that did something to bring them to their senses while everybody else was leaving them laying there.



Brandon1 said:
... and found somthing new on a whim ...

What is the meaning of this in plain English?
 
I've been in that same boat. She never came back, but I moved on, slowly, and finally found someone else and got married. We've been happy for 5 yrs (2 1/2 married) now.



My advice to you is to count on your friends in times like this. As the saying goes "girlfriends will come and go, but your true friends will be there no matter what".
 
sometimes in life, the Man upstairs brings two people together for some period of time, and then they go their seperate ways again....for a purpose. Who's to say that you two won't get back together?



Focus on yourself right now and don't do anything stupid like getting drunk. Nurture yourself!

After all, she was attracted to something about you, even before she knew you personally.



I know how you're feeling as I'm 21 and have been with the same girl for a little over six years. We've seen the same ups and downs and a few months ago broke up and I thought that was it. It wasn't after a month ago I started to see some of the possible reasons for why it happened. Nonetheless I was happy it happened because it made us stronger, and I developed a better sense of myself. So take this as a blessing in disguise and get out there, better yourself in any way you can. Even if you don't get back with the same girl, the next girl will only be better, because the bar has now been set, and you won't settle for anything lower than the status quo.



Good luck!
 
Hey Brandon, when I first started reading your posts, I figured this was your first real girlfriend and that you probably haven't dated anyone else.



I'm going to try to be logical and speak from experience... If you haven't dated anybody else seriously, you don't know what love is, period. Love is imaginarey anyways, but its like saying that #16 is the best wax in the world when you haven't tried anything else. You just don't know.



I (as many on this board) have been in your shoes, but you will be fine. You guys need to experience life and have fun before your older. If its meant to be, its meant to be, if its not, its not. I dated a girl from 19-21 (that +itch ruined what should have been my prime) and every day when I look at my wife, I thank God I didn't marry that @itch I thought I was SO in love with. You will be good man.
 
Brandon1 said:
So in the meantime, I am going to the Long-Branch (country club) What a way to cope huh?



I know how you feel... I like to go to the driving range when I have a bad day... I've only been doing it for a month and last week I hit 180 with a 4 iron :wall.
 
I waited till you posted up a little more before I opened my yapper. This will be a prime time in youre live to figure yourself out. Trust me man I have been in more ruts with girls than I like to believe. Ive been in a 4, 7 and now five year relationship with 3 different girls. Been left and forgotten by1 and remembered by 1 when it was too late, just keep truckin on and enjoy everyday you wake up.



I wish the best for you and youre ex chica whatever you both decide. BTW I like to go drag race my Cummins when Im feeling rotten. Have a good one, Dave.
 
When I was in high school, my favorite teacher told me that my values, opinions and goals would be changing - and changing quickly. She said the key shift points happened when you hit 16, 18, 21 - and then again in your late 20's. I'm turning 48 in a few weeks and looking back, she was right. Brandon, we're friends, neighbors and well, it's a small town and our families have know each other for decades, so I think I know you and where you're coming from. You're smart, mature and the kind of guy I would want for my daughters when they get older (yeah, you'd be a hell of a son-in-law!). Like we talked last night - thanks for stoppin by, the main things are - give her time, be a gentleman to her no matter what - it will pay in the long run , do NOT blame yourself - and lastly - do NOT start thinking the shoulda-coulda's , my dad use to talk all the time bout what he should have or could have done. Don't do that, hindsight is always 20-20. What's happened in the past - let it rest, learn from it and look forward. The happiest, most successful people are the ones that look ahead and have a plan. Right now, focus on having some fun before school starts back, hang out with your friends, ride that ATV, and you know my door is always open and you're always welcome in my home. Take care and have a good time at the beach.
 
Thanks June, appreciate that.



Mom talked to her last night and she said that she was having a hard time doing this, but she knows it's best for us and me right now. I know it's best, but that still does not mean I dont miss her terribly.
 
Brandon1 said:
Thanks for all your help guys, keep me in your prayers that me and Becky get back together!



Have you ever heard Garth Brook's song, "Unanswered Prayers"?



YouTube - Garth Brooks - Unanswered Prayers



My first real girlfriend and I breaking up was pretty hard but when I saw her 5 years later, I was married to someone else, had a 3 month old son and she was already divorced and a good 60 pounds heavier!
 
JuneBug said:
When I was in high school, my favorite teacher told me that my values, opinions and goals would be changing - and changing quickly. She said the key shift points happened when you hit 16, 18, 21 - and then again in your late 20's. I'm turning 48 in a few weeks and looking back, she was right..



Good advice, nice of her to pass it on. And good for you to have listened ;)



Brandon01- Sounds like you have a good friend in JuneBug :xyxthumbs
 
Scottwax said:
My first real girlfriend and I breaking up was pretty hard but when I saw her 5 years later, I was married to someone else, had a 3 month old son and she was already divorced and a good 60 pounds heavier!

:rofl Ain't that always the truth :rofl
 
Brandon1 said:
Yeah, I listened to it the other day, it seems to make sense.



I am just going to go ride my new atv and have fun.

As you gain more experience in life you might one day remember things we told you here and realize some of them made a lots of sense even though you don't see it that way right now. Good luck!
 
Brandon - Come hang out, we are in the same area! I am always out, try to stay away from Longbranch though :)



If you need anything, you have my number.
 
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