So I guess I am a single man today.
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jimmie jam
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i will bet that you are circa or under the age of 25. if so, way too young to be "choosing" life partners. trust me, you'll be fine. perfect opportunity to move on and up:sadwavey: . hint: she didn't decide this during a short trip, trust me on that one too. you don't even want to ask me how i know that. i'm 54. you will be fine.
BlackElantraGT
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Brandon, I know what it's like to be with someone for so long and all of a sudden they're not in your life anymore. But, it's better to find out now than later. From pics I've seen of you, you're a young, handsome guy. Believe me, I'm sure there are many of us here who wouldn't mind being single (for a day or two LOL). Enjoy being single and young while you can.
But as much as I'd hate to say it, I have to agree to what ZoranC said. I think there's more behind this than all of a sudden wanting to move to Wyoming. It's not as if she's from California and wanted to live the country life all of a sudden. She could be doing what she wants in NC, but I believe this was just an easy excuse to get out of the relationship without breaking your heart (too much).
But as much as I'd hate to say it, I have to agree to what ZoranC said. I think there's more behind this than all of a sudden wanting to move to Wyoming. It's not as if she's from California and wanted to live the country life all of a sudden. She could be doing what she wants in NC, but I believe this was just an easy excuse to get out of the relationship without breaking your heart (too much).
Accumulator
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People change, especially at that age, often because they have new and different experiences.
I agree with jimmie jam about the "too young to be choosing life partners" thing. I know some highschool sweethearts who are still happy after decades together, but they're the very rare exceptions.
I agree with jimmie jam about the "too young to be choosing life partners" thing. I know some highschool sweethearts who are still happy after decades together, but they're the very rare exceptions.
SpoiledMan
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Accumulator said:
My wife and I met on the internet and it seems like we have counseled almost all of our married friends on making things work.:think:
Accumulator
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SpoiledMan- I'm not the least bit surprised that a couple who met over the 'net are perfectly compatible. I have a rather objective view of love, perhaps that factors into how I see it :nixweiss
And often somebody who just happens to have their head in the right place and a good knowledge base (heh heh, someone like maybe...you, perhaps
) can offer advice that others won't come up with on their own. Sometimes the anwer is to call it quits though- my wife and my best friend (female, BTW) were both previously married (at young ages) and they were smart to move on. Heh heh, how else could Accumulatorette and I gotten together 
And often somebody who just happens to have their head in the right place and a good knowledge base (heh heh, someone like maybe...you, perhaps
) can offer advice that others won't come up with on their own. Sometimes the anwer is to call it quits though- my wife and my best friend (female, BTW) were both previously married (at young ages) and they were smart to move on. Heh heh, how else could Accumulatorette and I gotten together
SpoiledMan
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I'm flattered.
Sometimes you just have to take it for what it is. Sometimes that means moving on. It's hard to tell somebody to do something like that when they've been together for 10 years though.
Sometimes you just have to take it for what it is. Sometimes that means moving on. It's hard to tell somebody to do something like that when they've been together for 10 years though.a.k.a. Patrick
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Temporary thread jack:
My wife and I met in high school, dated a few years after we graduated. We dated for 3.5 years, then got married, and have been married more then 20 years now. She is the most awesome woman in the world, and I dont know where I would be without her! She makes me laugh to no end, keeps me warm at night (when its cold, lol). If I could just get her to do interiors for me, like she does her home, I'd be even happier!
Seriously, age is irrelevant. We married when we were 25. You can either experience fun on your own, or experience fun with someone. I would not want my 19 yr old son to get married at 19/20, but whos to say who is ready, and who isnt?
Im glad she was not experiencing life with another while away from you. Thats a little easier to swallow. Im sure that has to be one of the most degrading and debillitating feelings ever.
She may have just experienced something that has made it a little easier to decide her future for her. I mean cattle driving in Wyoming sounds like a helluv-an experience!
She too deserves a life of fullfillment, and one who loves her, should not disuae her from that.
My wife and I met in high school, dated a few years after we graduated. We dated for 3.5 years, then got married, and have been married more then 20 years now. She is the most awesome woman in the world, and I dont know where I would be without her! She makes me laugh to no end, keeps me warm at night (when its cold, lol). If I could just get her to do interiors for me, like she does her home, I'd be even happier!
Seriously, age is irrelevant. We married when we were 25. You can either experience fun on your own, or experience fun with someone. I would not want my 19 yr old son to get married at 19/20, but whos to say who is ready, and who isnt?
Im glad she was not experiencing life with another while away from you. Thats a little easier to swallow. Im sure that has to be one of the most degrading and debillitating feelings ever.
She may have just experienced something that has made it a little easier to decide her future for her. I mean cattle driving in Wyoming sounds like a helluv-an experience!
She too deserves a life of fullfillment, and one who loves her, should not disuae her from that.
TortoiseAWD
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evilWagon said:
"And I think if I were a millionaire I could hook that up, too; 'cause chicks dig dudes with money."
Coupe said:
Yep. Sucks but that sounds exactly like what happened.
Look on the bright side, when my brother's filthy ex-wife cheated on him, she also gave him a plethora of STDs, including herpes. Every 6 months for five years after the divorce, my brother was getting AIDS tested to be sure she hadn't given him that too.
imported_themightytimmah
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That's a tough situation boss.... enjoy being a free man, try the field a little, and if you two are right for each other you'll find yourself coming back together.
I know how you feel Brandon, I was with the girl of my dreams for 2 years. She was absolutely perfect, people were alway jealous of what we had, and then out of the blue she dumped me. She's had another boyfriend for a quiet a while now and it is still very hard, as much as people tell you to move on and to start dating other people...just do what is right for you right now. It is always *very* hard at first but I wish you the best and hope things start looking up for you. It's been almost a year since she broke up with me and I'm still single...not looking and still in love with her. Some people will call me crazy but I made the decision and I would regret it more I think if I forced something with some random girl I dated just to try and move on. Just my take on things...
Also, don't always take to heart other people's take on things..whether it be mine or someone elses. Only you know her and what her true reasoning was...I don't find it too odd that this could be the real reason why she broke it off; maybe with her dreams she knows she wants to move and didn't want to hurt your further by keeping the relationship going if she knew she was going to move.
Also, don't always take to heart other people's take on things..whether it be mine or someone elses. Only you know her and what her true reasoning was...I don't find it too odd that this could be the real reason why she broke it off; maybe with her dreams she knows she wants to move and didn't want to hurt your further by keeping the relationship going if she knew she was going to move.
ZoranC said:
I'm sorry but you are the last person I would take advice from. You kinda don't know the details of our relationship and what we talk about concerning our future. I have taken the time while I have been single to date occasionally, focus on school, and my career goals. I'm not sitting here waiting around. If I needed help I'd ask but I have it figured out myself.
GlossyTundra
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ZoranC, you really just arent being anything but blunt, and that is not welcome at this moment in time.
Josh, you are right, only I know her. I talked to her mom today and se told me better what happened. She said that Becky has only been with me since she was 16 and now she's 20, she hasent done anything. She went to wyoming and found somthing new on a whim and got scared and in a bind that she would be doing the same thing forever without knowing if that is what she wanted to do. I kinda feel the same way, I have never been on a date with another girl, so I dont know whats out there. I't not really trying out other people as it's just making sure that we are meant for each other instead of finding out when we are married with children and want a divorce.
Her mom told me to hang in there, it isnt over. She said Becky has been walking death and keeps thinking she has done the wrong thing. Her mom said just dont call her for a while and she will realize what she has done is a mistake. It may take 1month, or 5 months, but she and I will be together agian b/c 2 people that are in love with each other will end up being together. I belive in fate, and I belive that soon I will be back with her.
So in the meantime, I am going to the Long-Branch (country club) and buying a ATV to ride with my buddies. What a way to cope huh?
Josh, you are right, only I know her. I talked to her mom today and se told me better what happened. She said that Becky has only been with me since she was 16 and now she's 20, she hasent done anything. She went to wyoming and found somthing new on a whim and got scared and in a bind that she would be doing the same thing forever without knowing if that is what she wanted to do. I kinda feel the same way, I have never been on a date with another girl, so I dont know whats out there. I't not really trying out other people as it's just making sure that we are meant for each other instead of finding out when we are married with children and want a divorce.
Her mom told me to hang in there, it isnt over. She said Becky has been walking death and keeps thinking she has done the wrong thing. Her mom said just dont call her for a while and she will realize what she has done is a mistake. It may take 1month, or 5 months, but she and I will be together agian b/c 2 people that are in love with each other will end up being together. I belive in fate, and I belive that soon I will be back with her.
So in the meantime, I am going to the Long-Branch (country club) and buying a ATV to ride with my buddies. What a way to cope huh?