Wow, that's a wicked change regimen. I think I did my '90 at 25K with Mobil 1 fluid and then went till 100K or more before I changed it again. I only got it up to about 125K in 16 years. As I said, they used to be rubber coated metal. Does your plastic one seem to have any metal in it?
Do you always use the AC/Delco? I changed the fluid in a family member's '88 a couple times too, and when they were newer, I used the "dealer" parts, but at one point I used some $10 off-brand filter kits (with Fel-Pro gasket) that a local parts store recommended, and developed a hard/delayed 1-2 shift in my '90, which only happened when the trans was hot, which was weird. I had bought a Purolator kit (of course Purolator doesn't make their own stuff anymore, it had some other name on the actual filter) for a lot more which I wound up never putting in, and I think it had the plastic seal.
On semi-critical applications, I typically get the OE parts. I never have issues.
I feel your pain, you want to trust the guys (at the dealer) who do this every day, but of course, with the level of factory training so minimal, they could be doing it WRONG every day. I still think you're changing way too often. What year is the car and how many miles do you put on it a year? I can't see changing more often than every 25K unless you are burning the fluid.