Help With Asking Girlfriend To Marry Me

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RedondoV6

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Well, I spoke to my jeweler today and I finally ordered a one-off hand made engagement ring for my girlfriend, Kat.



Question now is, how do I ask her to marry me? I'm brain-storming like crazy here, something original, fun, romantic and memorable. This is the 'second time around' for both of us and I want the whole experience to be one that Kat will remember vividly for a long time. Travel overseas is not an option due to work commitments.



If anyone has any good ideas, I'd really like to hear them :D
 
1) Have you gotten the father's blessing? That is fairly traditional, but it will stay in the family's memory banks for quite some time.



2) Did you have a good first date location? Obviously Chili's or the local Regal 32 isn't the best spot, but if you were at a park or at the beach, revisit.



3) Don't go my friend's route. He tossed the box on the bed and asked: "So, what do you think?" Yes, they are happily married, but that approach will work for one in four billion.
 
Setec Astronomy said:
This is one for a female Autopian, methinks.
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Yep! Help from the Autopian ladies would be very welcome!



But some of you Autopian guys must have given this some thought at some time?
 
thinksnow said:
1) Have you gotten the father's blessing? That is fairly traditional, but it will stay in the family's memory banks for quite some time.



2) Did you have a good first date location? Obviously Chili's or the local Regal 32 isn't the best spot, but if you were at a park or at the beach, revisit.



3) Don't go my friend's route. He tossed the box on the bed and asked: "So, what do you think?" Yes, they are happily married, but that approach will work for one in four billion.
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I hear you on asking her Dad first. We are both a little older, but Kat's family is very traditional and I hope to speak to her father sometime over the next few days.



The beach is possibility, we visit Beaufort or Hilton Head 5 or 6 times a year for long weekends. May be charter a boat ride at sunset or just ask her while taking an early morning walk along the beach.



Too funny about your friends approach to popping the question! Mind you, I'm sure she will remember that! :lol
 
Well I'll let you know how I did it. That might help???



I bought the ring in Feb of 2002. We planned a vacation to San Diego for Memorial day that year. About a month before we went I bought her a nice Diamond necklace that I knew she would like and that actually matched the ring I had gotten her. She knew about the necklace but not about the ring. She was actually there with me when I bought the necklace and when I bought it, I told her I would give it to her later as a present.



Well we went over to San Diego on May 27th, 2002 and the first day we were there we went to the San Diego Zoo and then went and checked into the hotel around 5pm. We were very tired because we had driven over that morning and had been at the freaking zoo all day so we went to sleep when we got to the room. Well, I woke her up around 11pm and told her to come out on the balcony. We had a hotel right on Pacific Beach and our rooms balcony was overlooking the ocean. We hung out there for a bit and we drank some wine for a little bit and I asked her if she wanted her present. I told her to close her eyes though and to act like it was a surprise at least. She thought I was going to be giving her the necklace she knew about. Well, while she had her eyes closed, I told her how much I loved her and would like to spend the rest of my life with her. I told her a few other personal things and then I asked her to marry me. When she opened her eyes I was down on one knee and had the ring in my hand. She loved it and we ended up getting married Jan 10th of 2004. Best of luck to you RedondoV6 and if you have any type of relationship with her father, I would recommend asking him. My father-in-law appreciated it immensely. He thought it was very cool and it actually made us better friends because of it.
 
We had our first date at a chinese restaurant. When I proposed, I made chinese for dinner (I do it all the time), but made my own fortune for the fortune cookie.



Will you marry me?



I think I went through a dozen fortune cookies trying to pull the old fortune out and put the new one in without breaking the cookie. :D
 
here's a good one for you:



get it placed in a display case at a local museum / art centre / expensive jewellery shop / whatever, with a card saying"Kats engagement ring" next to it. Then pay a visit to the display case, point it out, drop to one knee and hope she says yes!
 
I'm a barbershopper. and I'm reasonably sure there is a barbershop chapter near you. Most of us are practicing to send singing Valentines quartets out next month as chapter fundraisers so we're ready now. For 50 bucks, you can have a quartet sing a couple of love songs to her at a time and location of your choice, and with almost any advance notice, they (and you) can come up with a unique and memorable musical way for you to ask her to marry you.

Go to www.spebsqsa.org or for a list of the South Carolina chapters : http://www.dixiedistrict.org/page2-05.htm

for the nearest chapter to you.



This is something we love to do because most of us are real romantics!!! Besides, she'll be so impressed by your getting 4 guys in tuxedos to sing love songs to her FROM YOU, she really can't say no!
 
Well, you do have Valentines Day right around the corner which is the perfect time to âہ“pop the question.â€Â�



Depending on how creative you want to be it could be at the end of a nice romantic dinner, or during one of those quiet âہ“walks on the beachâ€Â� times, although February may not be the best time for that. Think of some of the places youâ€â„¢ve been that have a special memory for the both of you.



There are some things that never go out of style in a situation like this: romantic candlelit dinners, quiet times on the beach, sunrise, or sunset. And no matter how you do it, rest assured, it will be a âہ“specialâ€Â� day that she will always remember. Best wishes to you both!
 
Not my idea, but it's what my dad did when he proposed to my mom almost 20 years ago.



First of, he asked her mother for permission, and her mom slipped it to her.



They were at a friend's house for a party and they both walked into the bedroom to talk away from the other guests. She sat on the bed and he knealed in front of her. Here she was expecting a proposal. What he said was something like "We've been going out for a long time blah blah blah... I think we should stop dating.



And get married". [pull out ring now]
 
My all time favorite...





Get her a new car with a big bow on it. On the custom made license plate, have it say "Marry Me".



Other than that I can't really help. Still seriously dating, but I already know the night is going to have to be extravagant and I will have to ask for her father's permission/blessing.
 
Input from a female Autopian.......Only you know your relationship between youself and Kat.....I think your marriage proprosal should reflect what you value and love abouth that relationship and Kat. It should reflect YOUR feelings in a way that she can see. What will make the most memorable proposal, in my opinion, is not so much things, places or material items themselves, but how they reflect what you feel and what you hope for in a marriage to this lady. Look inside your own heart and feelings and find the things that would say this to her.....it is the sincerity and thought that you put into your proposal that matter. If Kat can see this in whatever you choose to do, you will have done your best in letting your heart speak to her....and if she is you soulmate.....she will hear it, see it and feel it. You sound like a very caring and thoughtful person....Best Wishes for you both
 
what's your budget and timeframe? that will help us out - not that money makes it better, but it'll control the extravigance



She already knew I was going to pop the question becasue we'd been talking about it for a while, but she didn't know when I was going to do it.



When I proposed I setup a secret trip and decided to make something for her. Packed the bags, got the hotel, etc all without her knowledge. When I parked at the resort, I told her it was just a weekend getaway before the rush of the holidays which she bought. I then sent her off to get a massage while I setup the hotel room with flowers, food, candles, etc. When she got back from the massage, I had her get dressed in the bathroom for dinner while I threw on my suit and poured the champagne.



Once she was done getting ready, I had her come to the upstairs part of the room and sit on the couch next to the fireplace. Since I am a geek, I'd made a movie out of a bunch of pictures of us on vacation over the past few years. At the end of the movie, I got down on one knee and asked.



Some other ideas I had:

hot air baloon

a week of surprises - fill her room with flowers, nice dinner at home with favorite movie, etc

something with planes - southwest airlines workers will help you out

a car - but the ring you bought may be just as expensive



good luck with whatever you do
 
Bury a ring in a jar of S100, after she puts on the third coat she will get the picture.



Seriously though, being in aviation I have seen a few guys pay a farmer to plow " Name Will you Marry Me" in a field then the guy takes her for a ride over the farm. Sounds expensive but I bet it could be done for under 300 bucks maybe even less?
 
MongooseGA said:
Not my idea, but it's what my dad did when he proposed to my mom almost 20 years ago.



First of, he asked her mother for permission, and her mom slipped it to her.



They were at a friend's house for a party and they both walked into the bedroom to talk away from the other guests. She sat on the bed and he knealed in front of her. Here she was expecting a proposal. What he said was something like "We've been going out for a long time blah blah blah... I think we should stop dating.



And get married". [pull out ring now]
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lol... id like to see the expression on her face when that happened.. but that phrase is a good idea... :D
 
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