Ronkh
Wax Waster
Heart ain`t in it today, but Gettin ready for a show.
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512detail
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ya got some white smudges on the hood 
Ronkh
Wax Waster
ya got some white smudges on the hood
Cloudy paint.
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Accumulator
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So why no burning enthusiasm Re this one?
Ronkh
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Father has Alzheimer`s. It`s becoming time to put him in a home....
Accumulator
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Aw gee, sorry to hear that. It happened to my dad`s second wife and one of my favorite aunts, so I have a little idea what you`re facing (well, very little I guess). Sorry to, uhm...make you explicate your lack of enthusiasm.
Ronkh
Wax Waster
Ehhhh. It`s been going on since January. Progressed really quick. If you noticed, I haven`t really been posting much substantive in a while. I`ve been spending a ton of time up with him. That was the reason for the switch from Tahoe to Durango, so he could get in/out easier.
Accumulator
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OK, I do remember how he factored into the Durango purchase in some way. That *is* a pretty quick progression, understand completely about your current priorities and the, uhm...time factor.
BudgetPlan1
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Hang in there, it`s a ````` for sure. No one can ever take away all the good times past, though.
Ronkh
Wax Waster
Thanks
trashmanssd
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Sorry about your dad. Don`t worry about the car being perfect just go and enjoy the day and the people and have a hot dog.
tropicsteve
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one day at a time ron, hope to see you tomorrow.
jtford95
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This sucks in a big way Ron. Praying for you all. My wife is going thru that with her mom. So far, she has been ok. My wife takes Uber to her house almost every day to check on her.
Ronkh
Wax Waster
Thanks guys...
Yeah, I`ve been there almost every day. 5k on the Durango already, Traded Tahoe w 24k miles. That was part of the move reason as well, to get closer.
Yeah, I`ve been there almost every day. 5k on the Durango already, Traded Tahoe w 24k miles. That was part of the move reason as well, to get closer.
Ron:
Thank you for being so candid about your reason for your "heart not in it". I am sure that there are other Autopians who are reading this post and are care-givers in some way or form for their own aging parents, even if it helping out with home maintenance-and-upkeep that they can no longer do. I see this in my own neighborhood and I applaud those children who are fulfilling their personal commitment and placing priority to "honor your father and mother, that your days may be long" in the Ten Commandments. I do not think that many children/young people think about this as a life-long commandment, and not just something that they need to do in their youth growing up.
What is most difficult for me personally is seeing a parent (or parents) age as they do and not be able to do the things they did so easily in the past or things that they taught you and see them as a shell of their former selves or be totally out of character because they simply are no longer cognitive or aware of the people, situations, or events that they used to know without thinking about it.
My wife`s mother went though this with her father in a nursing home, when he could no longer recognize his own daughter as being just that. I asked her why she would even bother to take the time to visit him, as he could be quite abusive to her and not know what he was doing or saying. Her reply was, "He may no longer know that I am his daughter, but I KNOW he is still my father." I never forgot that reply! The irony of that is my wife would go through the same scenario with her mother many years later. What is most important in life is family and the need to care about each other as long as we live.
While I greatly appreciate all of the posts with your white Corvette and how much you care about its appearance, I much more respect your character as a person to care about their aging parent with their physical and mental "challenges". A wise elder in my church family once said, "Reputation is what people know me by; character is what God knows me by." I think that applies to you, Ronkh.
Thank you for being so candid about your reason for your "heart not in it". I am sure that there are other Autopians who are reading this post and are care-givers in some way or form for their own aging parents, even if it helping out with home maintenance-and-upkeep that they can no longer do. I see this in my own neighborhood and I applaud those children who are fulfilling their personal commitment and placing priority to "honor your father and mother, that your days may be long" in the Ten Commandments. I do not think that many children/young people think about this as a life-long commandment, and not just something that they need to do in their youth growing up.
What is most difficult for me personally is seeing a parent (or parents) age as they do and not be able to do the things they did so easily in the past or things that they taught you and see them as a shell of their former selves or be totally out of character because they simply are no longer cognitive or aware of the people, situations, or events that they used to know without thinking about it.
My wife`s mother went though this with her father in a nursing home, when he could no longer recognize his own daughter as being just that. I asked her why she would even bother to take the time to visit him, as he could be quite abusive to her and not know what he was doing or saying. Her reply was, "He may no longer know that I am his daughter, but I KNOW he is still my father." I never forgot that reply! The irony of that is my wife would go through the same scenario with her mother many years later. What is most important in life is family and the need to care about each other as long as we live.
While I greatly appreciate all of the posts with your white Corvette and how much you care about its appearance, I much more respect your character as a person to care about their aging parent with their physical and mental "challenges". A wise elder in my church family once said, "Reputation is what people know me by; character is what God knows me by." I think that applies to you, Ronkh.
NLove
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Sorry to hear about your father Ron. I home you can find some peace and happiness with positive memories.