Breaking the Ice with Girls

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Basshog

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I just transferred from a small college to a larger school that has an abundance of cute girls. I'd like to hear some advice from some fellow autopians on how they go about breaking the ice with a single girl or a group of girls (3+).



As of now I have a couple routines that I made up which seem to work pretty good as long as it is a girl that is alone with no other friends. Here is an compacted version of one of them.



Hi, How are you doing?

I’m fine, how are you?

I am good, thanks.

My name is Dusty, what is yours?

Sara

Ok Sara, I was wondering if I could make a friendly wager with you…

The terms are as follows: If I win, you have to talk to me for five minutes and you have to buy me a drink and I have to buy you one. If you win, I have to talk to you for five minutes and I have to buy you a drink and you have to buy me one.

Ok, sounds good.

Alright, all you have to do is take a single match and drop it and have it land on the thin side. Do you understand? You only have one try, so make it count.



(The key is to fold the match so it makes an V shape)



Any information/criticism/advice is appreciated.



Thanks,



Dusty :usa
 
I would skip the whole "wager" routine if it were me. Just walk in like you own the place, confident, but not cocky. Get a feel for the room, check things out, then decide who you want to talk to. Make it a point to work your way over to them, then just talk to them like a normal human being. Find something that you have in common with them fast, get a laugh out of her, relax. Most girls will know if you have game or not when you walk in the room--no need to front. Just my .02
 
In college? Based on my son's first year of college, I think the only requirement is you be male. I'll clean up what he told me as best I can....



"Girls in college basically throw their private parts on your private parts". :LOLOL



Seriously, you are both at college, right? That ought to be enough of a topic starter as is.
 
I feel this one is the best if your already in a dating situation...



About 2-3 dates in with a girl you REALLY like you do this.



Walk into a restaurant, get seated; excuse yourself to the bathroom. On your way back, unzip the pants and have your package hanging out. when she notices say; see that's about as bad as it's going to get; you've seen my at my worst, it only gets better from here!



(btw; this is all sarcasm and i've never tried it before).
 
Charisma said:
I feel this one is the best if your already in a dating situation...



About 2-3 dates in with a girl you REALLY like you do this.



Walk into a restaurant, get seated; excuse yourself to the bathroom. On your way back, unzip the pants and have your package hanging out. when she notices say; see that's about as bad as it's going to get; you've seen my at my worst, it only gets better from here!



(btw; this is all sarcasm and i've never tried it before).
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Is chapter two of your book getting her to bail you out of jail after the public nudity arrest?
 
yeah...i wouldn't try any lines other than "hi..." or "hi....my name is xXxXx" ...anything else is just cheesy. of course, like said above...it is college...so everyone knows what everyone else is out for basically the same thing. hahahaha
 
I'm a woman and I think the match thing is CHEESY! If a guy came at me with that, I'd think he was a player and I'd want nothing to do with him. Just be yourself and comment on the situation. For example, if you're in a bar...just smile at her and if you get a friendly "smile confirmation" back, just say something along the lines of "It's busy/dead here tonight. Are you here with friends?" Nothing too impressive...just small talk until she engages in conversation. My .02
 
"Nice shoes.... wanna F__k?"



:getdown Ya never know. lol



Seriously... use school topics like classes and such. For you... an easy one is breaking the ice with a conversation about being new in the area.
 
Scottwax said:
In college? Based on my son's first year of college, I think the only requirement is you be male. I'll clean up what he told me as best I can....



"Girls in college basically throw their private parts on your private parts". :LOLOL



Seriously, you are both at college, right? That ought to be enough of a topic starter as is.
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I need to go back to college :D My wife might not approve though!



Seriously though, if you have a decent sense of humor and are witty, girls are easy to joke with and get them to laugh. I always found humor the best ice breaker. Just don't over do the self depricating humor, that gets kinda old.
 
I am on the shy side myself so I would never approach a chic (In a bar or out in public). They either approached me or I met them through friends.



A wise man once said....."He who hesitates, masturbates"........



So many instances I look back on and wish that I shoulda, coulda, woulda......All I can say is that the wise man was pretty damn accurate!



Go for what you want! Just be polite and respectful although most college girls don't appreciate that.......the good ones will though although they are few n far between!
 
Make an ugly girl friend - they usually have cute friends and that way you get a good idea of other girls' background and reputation, and you can usually avoid the crazy ones.



That, or if worst comes to worst, a good smile's your friend. A simple "Hey, what's happening" works wonders if you carry yourself right.



I try to stay away from lines, they've never really worked for me but YMMV.
 
gotta talk and walk with confidence...not too over-confident though. Don't think about being smooth, hooking up, etc all that junk. .just plain and simple chat with a stranger...talk to her like a person, rather than putting ***** on a pedestal and you'll be fine. There's no need to be shy...I used to be, then one day decided what's the point of being shy...it doesn't get ya anywhere...Just don't be overbearing or you'll come off as desperate.
 
Nothing but humor meant towards the original poster, but i'd kick my own *** if I ever said that to a woman.



Just be yourself. If you pretend to be someone else, you've got a lot of pretending to do if you intent to bring that relationship to fruition. I have a long time girlfriend and it's that way because I've been my goofy self since day one (check out my new signature.)



Start slow, where are you going to meet these girls? In class? Start with Hi/bye, move to hey we should study sometime or what are you up to this weekend?



Like most have said, be confident without being cocky. Get her to talk about herself, and be interested. 1. it shows interest 2. people like to hear themselves talk. People that don't know you, don't care that ZFX isn't as hard to use as some autopians make it out to be.



Just remember, you won't catch a fish everytime you put the hook in the water....sort through the **** and catch the gold.
 
in a bar...walk past a girl, smile at her, say whats up, tell her your going to the other side of the bar and if she wants to join you, then she is welcome to...



that way you have opened the door for her to choose, not being pressured to talk to you...and you dont really get rejected if she doesnt come along because you never really engaged in any real conversation to get to know her at that point...how can you get rejected and feel bad about it if you never talked to her....



and the other thing is to actually pay attention to what she is saying...if she talks about her dead grandma with a smile on her face, she is obviously trying to see if you are paying attention, and if you are laughing with her, she knows you are not!



Also, you have to choose your conversations carefully. You dont talk about serious things in a bar with a girl you are trying to get to know. Save that for the dinner date you set up with her a month down the road. Keep your wittiness, humor, and playful side out in the open for the times when you are in a bar, out with a bunch of people, etc. Keep the deep conversations for when you two are alone and she wants to talk about it...Nothing kills your chances more than forcing a girl to talk about something she doesnt feel like talking about at that moment. If she wants to talk about detailing, talk it up. If she wants to talk about the SAINTS blowing the game the other week, then talk about it. If she asks one thing about you, ask two about her! That right there will ensure you a longer conversation.



and always leave her guessing what else there might be to know about you. If she knows everything from the first night, you just ****ed yourself for a 2nd date! and leave her with a witty smart *** comment that makes both of you laugh as you walk away...it will be the last thing she remembers about the night and it will make her smile...thats a good thing!



and depending on the type of girl, pick-up lines DONT WORK, unless they are original and come out naturally! the lame ones like lets go get a pizza and a F!@#, what you dont like pizza?? dont go over well with most girls...but the suttle "you're beautiful" and walk away with a wink has worked numerous times for me. She might stay where she is at while I go to the bar and get a drink, i'll turn around and look right at her looking at me, ill raise my glass and nod, then she will come over and engage in conversation...something like "wow you have no idea who my boyfriend is do you, the owner of the club!" and ill say, "what I wasnt hitting on you, i was just complimenting your good looks"...or i may get the conversation starter like "wow, no one has ever done that to me before, you made my night and made me feel really good about myself tonight, thanks" and I will take the conversation wherever it leads...



but dont go to the same bar over and over and dress the same, talk the same, be with the same people all the time. one thing girls dont like in a bar is seeing all the same people over and over...it gets old. You walk in with 4 friends to one bar on monday, the same friends on tuesday, and the same friends on wednesday, you are wasting your time. Sometimes a girl will not walk up and engage in conversation with a guy based on the friends he is with (maybe the friends are not good looking or whatever, but who is going to talk and hang out with her friends while she talks to you???) That is where you come in and take over the situation..TALK TO ALL OF THEM, but talk to the one you are interested in with a little more attention and a little more physical touching (hands, arms, waist, not the bedroom type touching....that just tells a girl you want one thing from her, maybe you do, but dont be like every other guy to get her into bed...and by you talking to her friends, you show you are able to get along with them and have a good time. Her friends were there first and they will be there long past you that night, so its best to get in with all of them!!! Bringing different friends will make your chances greater if she sees you with her different friends. It brings more options to the table, and who knows, you may have seen her first, but become more interested in her friends and vice versa!!!





:wow: that was a long post...
 
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Works like a champ every time. You get the entire bar's attention.



I use it at work during serious moments, planting it behind a computer monitor and everyone laughs hysterically.



Nothing is funnier and more ice breaking than a wet fart. Everyone is in great spirits after a good ripping toot or two or twenty.
 
Thanks for the info guys...I appreciate it.



"He who hesitates, masturbates" :LOLOL



-ToyotaGuy- My screen saver came up while reading your post because it was so long! Good Information though :2thumbs:
 
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