Anyone up for giving some advice on girls?

[GlossyTundra]

Yeah, i'm definatly not ready to settle down, i'm only 20! I just like having a girlfriend, but when one doesent make me smile as much as she used to anymore or when I purposly dont answer the phone, it throws a little flag.



I am the type that likes to have fun and either wants to be around one that does the same, or be around my buddies (what few I have left) to have fun. She's just not spontanious and fun anymore. I know I *NEED* to talk to her about it, i'm just not sure I know how to approach the situation.



BlkElantra- That other *girl* has come back to me countless times saying what a huge mistake she made and that she doesent want to go go vet school and how all she could ever want in her life is me. I'm like, "Haha, sorry *****!"

 

[Way2SSlow]

Only problem with talking with her is that this is something I cant talk to her about. How could you tell someone this problem? B/c thats what i'd like to do is talk to her, but cant figure out how to go about doing so.

Be blunt about it. If she cant handle it, then send her packing. I mean, don't be mean about it, just put it out there and see how she reacts. If she's as nice and easy going as she seems, then maybe she'll mix it up a little bit and start having a backbone as well as some of her own ideas. I definitely like to have a lady that likes the same things as I do, but I also like one that will speak her mind and not go along with everything that I say. Maybe that's why I'm single....... Just my .02 man, and I'll say it again, I'm currently single.



Edit: I'd do this sooner than later. If you're 4 months into an exclusive relationship, you probably should be comfortable enough to speak your mind.



HTH

 

[Accumulator]

Brandon01- To me, it simply sounds like you're not ready to settle down; the stuff that's bugging you is the same stuff that can be *so* desirable at a different point in your life.



Sometimes there just isn't all that much that *needs* to be said, but people can be :nervous2: about those long silences. IMO/IME one of the signs that two people are compatible is that they're OK not doing a whole lot of unnecessary talking; just being together, or even being physically apart but emotionally connected, is enough. Maybe you two just need to give each other a little more room :nixweiss



And FWIW, I've found that it's not so much having common interests (beyond a certain basic level) but more about having common *values* and respect for what matters to the other person.



But yeah, you two do need to talk about *this issue*.

Man, if you can't talk to her about this, the state of your relationship, then you got issues with the relationship. Been married 15 years and was a bachelor till I was 35, cause I didn't want to settle down. If you can't talk about important stuff like this, then you don't have much of a relationship..

Heh heh, SamIam, you and I have more in common than our love of A8s :xythumbs Though I was only single until I was 29 (but I've been married to Accumulatorette for 19 with not *one* fight since I've known her).

...it's impossible to realize that this is as good as it will get. IF, you do settle down and get married, those carefree days are over..

Eh, not necessarily I'm a lot happier married/settled down than I was as a single guy, and I'm at least as carefree now too But then we don't have kids either...



Yeah, I know, everybody is different, but I don't want Brandon01 to be all :nervous that the best times are slipping behind him Being married/settled down/etc. doesn't *have* to mean that the good times are over, not in the least. Gotta be with the right person though.

 

[JohnZ3MC]

Brandon,

You're making a huge mistake here. You're asking a bunch of guys about advice about women.

In the history of the world, not one guy has ever figured out any woman.

Heck, I haven't been able to figure out any of my previous 6 wives either. It's just impossible.

Maybe check and see if that television program, 'The View' has a website. Maybe ask there.

Just a suggestion,

-John C.

 

[Junebug]

Even "Wilson" from Home Improvement said,"Who can figure out women" - classic line, and then there's the other option - find a girl that's a friend, with no reason to want you - like maybe see's married or serious with a guy and ask her advice. I had a real good friend like that, advised me not to get married that second time - I shoulda listened!!!