So I guess I am a single man today.

GlossyTundra

GlossyTundra

Tractor Detailer
I have been with the girl of my dreams for the past 3 1/2 years. We have always been perfect for each other and have always had tons of fun together. Seemed like everything was going 100% perfect. Now just for the point of making this story sound right, she wanted to be a large animal vet when she graduates.



Well, July 7-14 she went on a cattle drive to Wyoming. Gone for 1 week, we have never been away from each other more than 3days. She comes back acting all wierd, like she does not even want to see me. Well, skip to today and I start asking questions. Seems that she has realized that she may not always stay with me in NC and would someday like to move somewhere else (new idea). Says that she loved Wyoming so much that she wants to go work there next summer. Seems that to prevent further heartache years down the road when we would be even more involved with each other, we should break up now.



Now, we still love each other 100% and wanted to be together always. I guess that her life and mine (one that is not willing to move from NC) wont work together in the long run. So we decide that it may be best for us to go our seperate ways. Now we arent enemy's or anything like that. In fact it was one of the hardest breakups (and one of the only) that I have ever done. Probably only b/c we still love each other very much. I was really upset and the fact that I have seen her for 3years and now I just wont is really heartbreaking.



I dont know why I posted this, I just had to vent. All my friends were asleep and I have nobody to talk to. I am just not looking forward to the weeks ahead b/c I wil be missing her so much. I love her and hope to still be in contact with her for a while. I am not mad at her for wanting to move elsewhere, just livin in sucksville right now.





I also posted this on the AGO forum, so if you have seen this already, disregard it.
 
Bummer man! Don't know what else to say other then things have a strange way of working out.



Chin up and go put a coat of wax on that sweet truck. :)
 
Seems that to prevent further heartache years down the road when we would be even more involved with each other, we should break up now.

I guess that her life and mine (one that is not willing to move from NC) wont work together in the long run. So we decide that it may be best for us to go our seperate ways.
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Cherish what you had, and be gratious that you had the chance to love as you did, for as long as you did.

In reference to your comments above:

Your conscious and heart rarely speak the same language, and thats part of being human, its what separates us from the animal kingdom.

Maybe she will have a change of heart once Wyoming wears thin? Your post cant help but bring curiosity to the surface, who did she go to Wy with though?
 
I'm tempted not to post, but...



Reading your post brought back memories, similiar situation, sudden change and all that... as I'm reading I was nodding my head. In my case I ended up finding out a year later that she had cheated on me, but wanted a way to get out of it guilt free. I think finding it out a year later was even harder than the original breakup and I think that's what a.k.a. Patrick is hinting at: did she go with a 'friend'?



As terrible as an experience as it was, I'm getting married in three weeks to the girl of my dreams... and in hindsight if the first girl hadn't cheated and broke it off I'd likely still be with the first one and unhappy, instead of with my future wife. Put some music on man, I started to listen to a lot of older accoustic guitar stuff; eric clapton unplugged etc. Oh, and do all of the things that you enjoy but have been neglecting over the past few years.
 
If you love something set it free. If it doesn't come back then hunt it down and kill it!:D



J/K



Really if it is meant to be it will.
 
Brandon,

That really sucks man. Thats a long time to be together. Memories dont seem to go away that easy believe me, I know. When one door closes , another one opens. Sometimes i want to beat the crap outta the guy that came up with the - its better to have loved to never have loved at all- line (he/she must have been a hermit imo). Keep your chin up bro. Go hang out with some buddies you haven't hung out with in a while. Keep busy. All things can be healed in time.
 
Brandon, here is an advice to you from man that has been divorced twice: If she truly was the girl of your dreams she would not be leaving you. Learn the lesson and move forward. One that is truly a girl of your dreams will not look how to achieve her goals even if that means dumping you, she will look how to achieve goals and be together.



Plus sudden acting weird after just a week of absence is often indicator of guilty conscience over something that happened during that week.



Bottom line you are better off and be glad you found out now rather than later as divorces are not very fun, trust me.
 
I don't want to sound like an *** here, but I'm gonna have to agree w/ Zoran... somethings up. IF she loved you 100% she would try to make it work... or at the very least make the most of the remaining time you had before she moved away.



As cheesy as this will sound - "love has no boundaries"... I would drive to the ends of the earth for my wife and deal with any distance if the situation demanded it. To cut things off early to "avoid heartache down the road" sounds like a cop-out to me. Just my $0.02... take it for what its worth... but me thinks she did a little more than drive cattle while she was gone.



BTW: My wife and I have been in love since 1996 when we first met in highschool... here we are 11 years later, married for 4 years now and I love her just as much as the day I met her... we've seen situations like this come and go... if it really is love you guys will find a way to make it work.
 
ZoranC said:
Plus sudden acting weird after just a week of absence is often indicator of guilty conscience over something that happened during that week.
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Exactly, she cheated on him
 
I know the heartache of breakups man. It SUCKS a lot, and if you really love that person it takes a long long time to get over. I won't sugar coat that aspect of it. I would have to agree unfortunatly with Zoran also, if she was the woman of your dreams or the "one" she would want to make her dreams your dreams, and work them out so that you could do it together. When one door closes, another one is sure to open up down the road. It may be a while, but trust me love has mysterious ways of working. You WILL get through it, and YES it will be tough for a long time. Best thing to do is to try your best to keep youself occupied. I see your in wrightsville beach...nice area. My fiance' and I are looking at moving down there. Go to the beach or do some fishing buddy, and keep your chin up!!

-Brian
 
SpoiledMan said:
Man I didn't want to say that.
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Well, it is of no help to him not to have open eyes so somebody had to do dirty job. Considering I do not have a reputation of being tactfull I felt it could be as well me. He can thank me later.



Also, please notice I did not say "cheated". I said "guilty conscience". That can be caused by many different things. Exact cause does not matter in the bottom line. What matters is the bottom line.
 
No she didnt cheat on me. She went with her father as a bonding trip together. We just kinda realized that it's about a 85% chance that she will end up moving away for vet school and even though I would be willing to follow her wherever, both of us know that I would not be happy. Either way she is going to work for the rancher's brother in wyoming next summer for 3months, long time to be away from each other. I am kinda glad it ended when it did. It leaves us on a good note with the option to still love each other in a friend way.
 
As harsh at it sounds...the quickest way to get over one woman is to find a better replacement.
 
But trying to find someone who is a better replacement than the woman that you loved is hard. It is also hard to not compare the new with the old on everything that you do.
 
blinkbcr said:
But trying to find someone who is a better replacement than the woman that you loved is hard. It is also hard to not compare the new with the old on everything that you do.
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Hmm, maybe but the chase sure is fun. Life's too short to get hung-up on the past.
 
Haha I'll have to agree with you yakky. No point in wasting your time rethinking the past. Go out and make a new future and go from there
 
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