My girlfriend wants a tattoo, but I dont like them.........

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She wants something very small on the space below her belly to the left, but above her(ahem) :lol . I really dislike the things. I almost get sick everytime I think about her having one, especially there. She has put off getting one because she says that she dosent want to have anything on her body that will make me that unhappy. Pretty nice if you ask me. But I know she really wants one and I feel bad for being that unopen on the idea. But everytime I think it might not be that bad, I get that sick feeling again. Am I crazy for thinking this, or do I need to stop being a bitc* and let her get one? :hairpull
 
I say let her go for it, as long as it's not a cartoon character :D



But, I may not be the best person to give any advice since my wife and I both have tattoos as do my parents and sisters, brother-in-law, etc....



What specifically turns you off about tattoos? Do you not like the idea of altering one's body? Or, do you just think they look trashy? I personally subscribe to the general idea that "our body's a temple, let's paint the walls." Obviously, there are a heck of a lot of tattoos out there that I would never let adorn my body though.



If she does go through with it, make sure she goes to a reputable studio that sterilizes their equipment and uses fresh needles and ink.
 
I like tattoo's on girls so I am the wrong person to comment on this I guess - but the spot she is picking is not a good one, imo. If she ever gets pregnant (just sayin') it will stretch and look terrible, and never go back to the way it will be when she first gets it.
 
I agree with PICUS on the streching note. Have you told your gf about how sick you get about a tatoo on her? I woudl hope that if you told her how you felt she might reconsider. But ultimatly its up to her.



Greg
 
Well, she is your 'girlfriend' and not your wife. Unless you've had serious discussions about marriage, I wouldn't push the issue too hard. Just tell her you love her just the way she is.
 
How about taking a minute and thinking outside the box? What if you would make this a joint project? Help her to decide on a tattoo and the location. And the most important part, finding a quality professional artist. If you help to make the decisions, you might be able to tolerate her getting a tattoo much easier.

I wanted a tattoo since I was 12, and everbody in my family had a cow evertime I brought it up. I made a comment a couple of time to my fiance, and had the same result. Finally I didn't care who didn't like it, and told her that I WANT one, and she came with to see what I had picked when I went in to make the appointment. She liked what I had picked and where I planned on putting it. To make a long story short, she helped me pick out the next 3 and she ended up getting one herself and is thinking about her second.

If a person wants one bad enuff they will get one, why not make it a shared project. Thier is a huge differance from a work of art applied by a quality professional and something put on by a hacker.

Just think about it for a few minutes.
 
I have noticed that tattooed people are much more prevalent when I have been on my travels in the US than here in OZ. That is not to say that there are a lot of people here that have them but just not nearly as many as in the US.



My wife has been tempted, as her sister got one a while back, but she always thinks, "a tatt will look really stupid when I am old and grey.



Good advice from earlier replies IMO, it is down to the individual.
 
Well I told her that if she did get one, that I wanted to be there for the procedure. I dont think they look trashy, its just that, right now, I think her body is perfect, and I dont want to have anything on it that isnt to me. I dont think she will get one because of how bad I dont like them, but I still feel bad for not letting her get one. She has wanted one for about 3yrs.
 
Scottwax said:
Well, she is your 'girlfriend' and not your wife. Unless you've had serious discussions about marriage, I wouldn't push the issue too hard. Just tell her you love her just the way she is.
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I must agree with you. Girlfriend is just that. I stress the friend part.......Even my wife has them and if she want more then is her “bag�. It is her body and not mind. I am not a control freak.
 
Ultimately it's up to her. The temporary tattoo is a good idea, though it may persuade her to get one since they look pretty good while they're on. Do you know any 'older' ladies with tattoos? Maybe ask them to show theirs (if it's not in an, er, inconspicuous spot) and see what they think?
 
AkronSi said:
body? Or, do you just think they look trashy?
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That's my take on it. I don't mean this as advice, just my way of looking at it: if I had a girlfriend who got a tattoo, started smoking or decided to do some "body piercing", both of us would be newly free and available.
 
Hemi57 said:
I have noticed that tattooed people are much more prevalent when I have been on my travels in the US than here in OZ. That is not to say that there are a lot of people here that have them but just not nearly as many as in the US.
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Yeah, you're right about that, and it's just about everywhere outside of the U.S. (I don't know about Canada). It's really bizarre for me when I go back to the States, and half the people, both male and female are walking around sporting tattos, and other things :rolleyes: . I guess pretty soon it'll be really trendy to walk around with a chicken leg bone through your nose, too.
 
Brandon, I'm with you. I don't like tatoos either. I don't mind if people I know have them, just not those close to me. I can't explain why I don't like them, I just don't. I think if my wife were to say she wanted one, I'd feel sick also.
 
if I had a girlfriend who got a tattoo, started smoking or decided to do some "body piercing", both of us would be newly free and available.[/QUOTE]



Well i'm not quite that extreme, but I still dont like them. I told her that if she did get one, I would still love her the same, and not think anyless of her, but just not like that little 2square inch part of her body.
 
if I had a girlfriend who got a tattoo, started smoking or decided to do some "body piercing", both of us would be newly free and available.[/QUOTE]



Well i'm not quite that extreme, but I still dont like them. I told her that if she did get one, I would still love her the same, and not think anyless of her, but just not like that little 2square inch part of her body.
 
My girlfriend got a small tatoo there before we even met. EXACT same spot as you metioned. She got two inter-twined hearts about the size of a bottle cap each. Its a sexy little thing, IMO. I have never had a problem with it. Also, you cannot see it unless you are dating ;). Even on a lower cut swimsuit, you can't see it. Its pretty much for us two, nobody else.





I was with you...I did not care for tatoo's personally much at all. I liked the designs people got and was truly moved by the art of it all, but could never see myself liking one personally...for me. I will have to say that my thoughts changed completely after watching a couple of the tatoo shows on TV now. "Inked" on The Discovery Channel and "Miami Ink" on TLC have really opened my eyes to the world of tattoos. I guess I have always seen "so-so" jobs done and have never been wild about getting a "so-so" piece of permanent artwork on myself.



After watching these shows, I have really seen the deep meaning some people have behind their "ink". It has really stimulated my interest and now I'm on the hunt for a design that will meet my standards. It may be years, but now I do intend to be "inked".



I would highly suggest checking out those shows.
 
It's not like she's your wife. I think tattoos are sweet, especially ones that are really well done. It's an amazing art form and the history of tattoos going back thousands of years is very interesting. My girlfriend had a tiny shamrock hidden on her boob because she is Irish. But, she isn't my girlfriend anymore so that's my point to you. Unless it TRULY bothers you and you have serious thoughts on spending the rest of your life with her, then I'd relax a little bit. It can't be that bad.



"Inked" is an awesome show on TV. You see some really sick work and people feel very strongly about their reasons behind getting one.



I'd get one, but it's against my religion. That's not the reason, but I wouldn't be allowed to be buried in the Jewish cemetery in the family plot. Reminds me of the episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm were Larry tries to bribe the grave digger to bury his mother inside the cemetary grounds with the rest of his family after he finds out she had a tattoo on her butt! :lol
 
SNL had a spot last week or the week before where they showed a young girl get a tat on her back that said "sexy girl". then, they showed the tat after she was older and them made it change into "sad lady".



it was a funny skit, but it underscores that point of what it will look like after several years. yes, you can remove them, but it's not cheap.

plus, tats can be a bit painful and is that where you'd like to have pain.



don't get me wrong, I think a little painted skin can be very attractive, but that's seeing the coeds here at ASU. if I saw the same design on a lady my mom's age, it'd probablly be a sad sight
 
percynjpn said:
just my way of looking at it: if I had a girlfriend who got a tattoo, started smoking or decided to do some "body piercing", both of us would be newly free and available.
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That pretty much sums up my feelings on this as well.
 
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